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Kim loves to read and study everything she can access from her church library, her mom’s personal book collection, and the public libraries. She has also purchased many home management books, but has never found a book that addressed the needs of handling the nitty gritty details of managing large families. Many times as a young wife and mother Kim called her grandmother for advice. Is she more qualified than many other mothers are? She is the first to say, "No, and I have much to learn. However, I do like to teach others about what I have learned and I like to write." Visit Kim at Large Family Logistics:
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This month, I'm giving you an exercise that will expose the minutes of your day, and get you back on track. If you keep a journal, you can record this exercise in there; if not, just grab a notebook and pen. Start right now and continue on for at least a few days. The longer you do this, the more you will see progress in getting to where you want to be. Start by writing down every single thing that you do and and the approximate time your activities take. It will help to keep a watch or clock right beside your journal. When I say "every single thing you do"--that is what I mean. Do not write only the big things but write down interruptions as well. If you change a diaper, write down how long it took. If you helped somebody with a math problem or three pages of math, write it down and the amount of time it took. If you stop at the sink and drink a glass of water, write that down. Every little thing that you do, write it down with the time it takes. Tonight when you go to bed, review it and commit to doing this exercise again tomorrow. This exercise will show you where your time goes and what you're doing with it. It will show you places where you can be more efficient. You might see that if you lined up your day a little better you will be able to save time and do more. You will see times where you can multi-task and get two things done at once. You might also find that you are trying to put too many things into your day, and that is why you can't get anything done. Are there things that you can delegate? Are there things that you need to excuse yourself and your family from? There are so many "good" things to do, but it is very easy to over commit ourselves and our families. Take a step back and revisit your goals and priorities. What activities fall in line with your primary priorities? This can be enlightening and expose things that need to be pruned from your life. When you cut something out it doesn't mean that you can never do it again. This is just not the season for it. If you streamline your daily routines better will there be more time for what you need to do and what you desire to do? Continue this activity for a few days, and start writing down notes to yourself about tasks that can be improved and how you can best improve them. Begin to write down what your children are doing during the day, by glancing around and jotting down who is doing what. This will help you identify time-wasting children. Are they wasting their time and yours with bickering about chores? It will also help you to see a child that is taking lots of time and whether this is truly necessary or not. I don't want you to cut your children short on love and affection. Different children need different things in different ways. However, some children cost you time because of their character traits. Think about what you can do to change your reaction. You may need to discipline a lollygogger, or restructure his day, or perhaps you need to keep on doing what you are doing with this child. Writing down what is happening and journaling about it will bring things to light about both you and your children that otherwise would go unnoticed. Another very helpful thing to do with this journaling exericise is to write down everything that you eat and drink, as unhealthy patterns may immerge. For example, you won't want to write down the fact that you ate 6 spoons of cookie dough at 4:30 PM. :) Recognize these unhealthy habits, and begin to journal healthier ways to ward off your huner at 4:30 each day. Wouldn't a handful of raw almonds be a bit healthier? Write down how much you are eating. The last time I did this exercise I was amazed at the amount of food that I was eating. Did I really need that much? I discovered that I didn't. I started to pay attention to my belly and how I felt. I began to eat less and eat slower. Reality is now exposed to you. When you think you have done enough journaling and reflection about what is truly happening, write a realistic plan for your day. Match up what you want to happen with what is really happening. If it takes you ten minutes for a diaper change, then leave enough time in the events of your day to encompass diaper changes, settling of disputes, switching the laundry loads, and wiping up the spilled milk. Plan for interruptions. Some of us tend to be idealistic and think that we can do this, that, the other--and do it all well. Others don’t attempt to do anything, but depend on others to do it. Every person can find value in taking stock of what really happens with their day. The over-achievers will discover that they are letting priorities suffer. The under-achievers will see that they can step it up a notch and be more helpful in the broader community. Everyone benefits when exposing the reality of our days. We all learn where we are weak and where we are strong and how we can further bring glory to God in our homes and families. "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven." ~ Ecclesiastes 3:1
__________________________ Family Gardening 101
Gardening sounds like a wonderful endeavor; the lovely flats of flowers and vegetables at the garden centers intrigue you, but where do you start? Of course you want to be successful and have an enjoyable experience! As usual, I say, plan ahead! Do some research and think about a few lifestyle changes that need to happen for a successful garden. A key component is going to your garden frequently and keeping the weeds down. This is great exercise and will save you from buying exercise equipment and gym fees. It will also help you keep an eye on how ripe your crop is. Adding this one habit to your new life will make you a successful gardener! There are a couple of options for first-time gardeners. I won't recommend going all out and growing the one acre market garden with every conceivable vegetable, your first year. Tuck that idea away for when you and your children are more proficient gardeners. It’s a great idea, but not one for beginners. From experience, I also know that if you are pregnant and due at the end of summer, you should not grow a big garden--unless, of course, you think five foot tall weeds are a thing of beauty. If you are going through the first trimester of pregnancy at the beginning of the gardening year, do not garden. Stop right now. OK, maybe grow a tomato plant in your flower garden, but that’s all. If it is the middle of a pregnancy, you’re feeling great, and you've got approval from your doctor, then go for it--but keep it in moderation. No market gardening. If you have big kids that are obedient and know a little bit about gardening, then you can rely on them to be the gardeners--you can direct from your lawn chair in the shade. If you have a fresh baby, you will not feel up to a large garden, take it easy and plan a weekly excursion to the Farmer’s Market. You are still getting better prices and much higher quality than from produce shipped in from Chile. You can get to know the grower and get tips from him on how to prepare it for eating and how to grow it for yourself. Let’s say that you feel great and you want to start growing food for your family. First decide what your family’s absolute favorite vegetable is. Then get some gardening books. There are plenty of them! My all time favorite gardening book is Joy of Gardening by Dick Raymond. It is very practical with lots of how-to pictures. Study how to grow your family’s favorite vegetable in a gardening book and then make it a family project. You might decide that your family’s favorite vegetable looks too touchy, so choose another to start with. My point with the favorite vegetable strategy is that you will be committed to it, will look forward to the harvest and the children will have a fun with it. Another easy strategy for beginners is the Salad Garden. Salad vegetables tend to be very easy to grow. If children grow their own salad they will also be likely to start eating salads--if they don’t already. Salad gardens can be tucked into existing flowerbeds around the house eliminating the need to till up a garden plot. Once you have decided which vegetables you want to grow, then decide how much of each vegetable you want to grow. That will determine how big of a garden plot you need. Then you will need to get your garden plot tilled. Look in the local paper or ask around for somebody who does this for hire. If your soil is poor, you will need to amend it. This is well covered in gardening books. Typically adding manure will give you a great start towards good gardening soil. Another very helpful source of information is your state or county Extension Service. They are there to help people farm and garden and have lots of information. They will tell you what you need to know or where to find the information. They might also know of somebody who will till your garden or who is an expert on the particular vegetable that you are most interested in. Look in your phone book under your county’s name and Extension. Once you have your vegetables planned, your plot tilled, and the soil amended you will plant your seeds or the plants that you purchase from the local nursery. For easy beginning gardening, buy the plants at the nursery rather than starting with seed (tomatoes, peppers, cabbage, broccoli, herbs, etc.). For some vegetables this isn’t an option such as beans or peas (they are easy to start from seed anyway). Seed starting indoors when there is still snow on the ground is very fun but it can be tricky. Next year, plan earlier to start more vegetables from seeds. You want to try to minimize disappointments in the first year of gardening. Follow the directions that come with the seed or plant. It might seem a little silly to plant a little itty bitty seed or plant so far away from the next one but you will experience one of the beauties of God’s creations and that is how a plant can grow in front of your eyes. Don’t blink! Seeds that provide nearly instant gratification are radishes, lettuce, and beans. Vines such as cucumbers, squash, and pumpkins are also easy to grow, you can buy these as plants but the seeds are generally successful. Cucumbers, peas and runner beans will grow up a fence--although a fence is not necessary. They will also spread all over the ground in a big green tangle and climb nearby plants. You can call it a ground cover and it will help prevent weeds from taking over the garden. If you want beans to climb, buy the pole beans not the bush beans. A fun thing for children is to plant a teepee garden. “Plant” bamboo stakes in a circle fastening them at the top with twine. At the base of each pole plant a couple of bean seeds. There is a bean called Scarlet Runner Beans that have red flowers that are pretty for this project. Children like to hide and play in the teepee. Now, for the easiest beginner garden of all, or for the years when you are short on help and/or incapacitated in one way or another--plant vegetables among the plants and bushes in the established beds around your house. Tuck a tomato plant here, a cucumber there, a line of lettuce behind a row of flowers, herbs in pots on your deck and you will succeed with ease. Gardening with the children Little children like to garden and their sharp eyes will probably be better than yours at distinguishing between which seedlings are weeds and which are the plant you want to be growing. They are wonders at spotting bugs! However, there is an age that is not fun to garden with and this is the toddler. They walk on the baby plants and will tear them out with their hands. These children should only be in the garden with complete supervision. I mean do not take your eyes off of them! You should take them to the garden though on a regular basis and you should talk to them about the plants. Teach them to respect the plants and they will eventually learn. Soon the plants will be so huge that the toddler can’t do damage. How do you tend the garden in the meantime? During your gardening time keep the toddler in a playpen outside where he can see you (with special toys only for this time), assign him to an older sibling, or do the gardening during naptime. Babies are much easier to garden with. They take more naps so it’s easier to go outside. They don’t need to be trained in contentedness for the playpen. My sister-in-law kept an old swing beside her garden for the baby. A stroller or playpen under a tree is also good for babies. They love to watch moving leaves. Get a bug net to protect them from bites. The other children should be at your side helping with various tasks. They can dig holes for seedlings, water, weed, find pests, carry a harvest basket, and more. Praise them for all their help, talk to them, answer their questions, and ask them questions. Gardening is a huge learning opportunity and there are so many helpful books out there. One book that we use all the time when gardening is the Rodale’s Color Guide to Garden Insects by Anna Carr. Nearly every bug we see outside we can find in this book in all of its life stages. The book tells how to control the insect if it’s a pest. Children are fascinated by insects and watching them. Older children appreciate the business opportunities that a garden can present. It is definitely something that they can enjoy and easily make money with in the years before they can drive themselves to work. Farmer’s Markets are a place where the whole family can contribute and enjoy their time together. Gardening is also an opportunity for ministry through giving the excess away. Take your bounty to church, your neighbors, retirement homes, and more. Gardening is good for children in many ways! Finally, take your harvest into your kitchen and prepare some delicious food! If new recipes intimidate you, the easiest thing to do is make a vegetable salad or a stir-fry. Both are easy and delicious and can be done with anything from your garden! "Please test your servants for ten days: Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink. Then compare our appearance with that of the young men who eat the royal food, and treat your servants in accordance with what you see." Daniel 1:12-13 __________________________ Gardening Day Regular readers of this column know by now that I am a proponent of order in our lives. In our family, we have a day set aside of gardening. On this day we focus on outdoor work. It doesn’t mean that we don’t do things I assign each child specific tasks for the day. These tasks are things that need to get done weekly during certain seasons. If it’s a big job, we all work together. In the days when my older children were small, my husband and I did the majority of the work while the children tagged along or played in the yard. By assigning tasks, you are ensuring that it all gets done and that you're building responsibility in your children. Take a look around your outdoor areas and make a list of things that need doing to help keep it tidy and attractive. Think about hospitality and making it easy for guests to get to your front door or for sitting on the front porch. Here is a basic list of tasks we do on Gardening Day.
During the outdoor living season, you should give serious thought to making your landscape hospitable. Do you have an outdoor sitting area? Think about folks’ yards that you admire and jot down ideas that you would like to incorporate into your own landscape. It can be as simple as two chairs and a drink table placed beside the sandbox for you and a friend to sit at while your children play. Do you have a front porch? Put a couple of chairs there to sit outside in the evening. When a neighbor walks by, call out "hello". How will we get to know our neighbors if we spend all of our time inside? When you look at your yard, start thinking in terms of hospitality rather than matching the shade and height of grass that your neighbor has. My personal favorite part of gardening is growing flowers and food. I love it so much that I’m afraid I could turn this article into a book. Instead I will keep it short and do my best to inspire you to want to do more flower and vegetable gardening. It's not complicated--anybody can garden. Seeds are life in suspension. It is a beautiful thing! If you are intimidated, then start with plants. Flowers will beautify your landscape and vegetables are nearly free organic food! Even if you just learn to grow one vegetable you will save money and help out the health of your family. My sister-in-law told me this morning that she likes to save money by growing onions. She uses them every day, she finds them easy to grow, and when she has to buy them in the spring, because her supply is used up, she is shocked by the prices. I am a fan of growing my own salad greens. I am still learning and one of my life goals is to learn to grow greens all year long. I know it can be done and every year I get a little smarter about extending the season. Another thing I love to grow is tomatoes. There is nothing like the flavor of a fresh-from-the -garden tomato. My mouth is watering just thinking about fresh tomatoes. BLT sandwiches with fresh tomatoes! Yummy! It's fun to snack on sun warmed cherry tomatoes as you walk through the garden. Delicious! My children are frequent snackers in our garden. Asparagus spears in early spring, strawberries, lettuce, green onions, peas, green beans, carrots, raspberries and more are all eaten fresh right off the plant throughout the growing season. Nearly free organic food. Selling your beautiful flowers and vegetables is a wonderful experience for everyone involved. The Farmer’s Markets are so fun to be at. It is good to get to know new people, it is good for the children to learn business skills, and it is satisfying to know that others are enjoying food that you and your family worked hard to produce. We have had several fun years taking our garden fare to local markets. I highly recommend pursuing market gardening as a family. Gardening is an extension of the home life and managing the outdoor work is part of the whole picture. Nearly free organic food, a bouquet for your table, a spot for you and your daughters to have an outdoor tea party, a clean vehicle to drive to church on Sunday--all these things make our lives more beautiful. Plan a day to focus on the tasks that make them happen! "Build houses and live in them; plant gardens and eat their produce." ~ Jeremiah 29:5
__________________________ Coping While Exhausted There are many things that drag us down, pregnancy is one of them, illness of some sort is another. I really encourage exhausted women to look at their diets and cut out the junk. I have found that I need way more than what are in prenatals or multi-vitamins. I believe we especially need more B vitamins. Our modern diets are dreadfully short on the B vitamins and when we eat deficient foods such as white flour, white rice, white sugar our bodies actually take what is needed to digest the whites from our bodies. Add to deficiencies the fact that you're growing a baby, and we become very drained. It takes huge effort to lift an arm or move a leg forward. I've been there. Actually last week, we made cookies that had way too much sugar in them (even though I used Evaporated Cane Juice Sugar) and I ate way too much. I had the classic sugar spike and then a really bad crash. I was pretty much useless the rest of the afternoon. The other thing I have found to be a huge help in my diet, especially when pregnant and nursing--which I guess are all the time for me--is to eat plenty of protein, especially for breakfast! It gives you long stable energy for the day. Find a protein you like and eat plenty of it: cottage cheese, cheese, eggs, leftover meat from supper, etc. We need to be so careful of what we put in our bodies. It affects how we live, how we feel, and that in turn affects everyone that we live with. Children can be a source of encouragement, love, and praise. Children that are not getting these things but have to deal with an upset mama will be cantankerous in return. Do not wound them. Yes, children should be obedient but little children in particular need so much love. They thrive on praise, they crave physical touch, and they love to do things with mama. Make sure that your children have plenty of love to balance any chastisement they receive. One thing that you can do in your communication with children is to memorize this verse from Proverbs 31:26 The King James says it like this, This is a verse I use with my girls when I hear their tongue get sharp--which always reminds me of my own tongue. How is my example to them? Another thing that will help in communicating with children is this--every single time you talk to them, force yourself to smile. "Fake it 'til you make it." When you speak while you're smiling, your tone of voice changes and you will find that the words that come out of your mouth are more gracious. Talk to your daughter about this and help them to do the same thing. Teach them to smile when they speak. It is hard to complain and whine while smiling. Have them memorize Proverbs 31:26 also. Focus on that together for a week and I expect that you will see a dramatic improvement in speech and attitude. When you are exhausted and/or big and pregnant and you see a million things that you want to do but there is no energy for it, this is how you work: First of all stick with simplified routines. Call your children, sweetly, and tell them, "We are going to work on ______ chore for 15 minutes, then we are going to sit on the couch and read a book." Now, work on that thing as hard and fast as you can, use a timer if you want--I love timers. You are doing work together, preschoolers LOVE this. Then, sit down with them and read. Doing this you are snuggling and reading. Preschoolers LOVE this also! Maybe you need 15 minutes more for a rest, take it. Make sure that every time you sit down, you have a glass of water in hand, and drink it! A lot of times when we feel physically ill, it is because we are dehydrated. Pregnancy really takes a lot out of us! That baby needs good fresh amniotic fluid all the time, you need good healthy blood pumping through your body, so drink lots of water. Use your timer and after you have had 15-30 minutes of rest, do 15 minutes of work. Make sure that the work you are doing is important work, don't clean what doesn't need cleaning. If you have three people in your home, and are regularly cleaning, it can't be that dirty. Compare that to the dirt that 8 farm children drag in. ;-) Just think about what my mudroom looks like and it might make you feel better about yours. ;-) For your 15 minute work periods focus on floors, bathrooms, and the kitchen. Those are the dirtiest parts of our homes. Make it as easy as possible for you. Perhaps you can use paper towels for cleaning instead of rags to save on your laundry, and use paper plates, plastic cups, spoons, and forks instead of washing. It will save on clean up. Paper and plastic are cheaper than household help. On the last 15 minute work period before you put your children to bed, have a 15 minute tidy. Get a basket and go around to pick up and put away. Make it a game to see how fast they are, or count how many things they can find. Cheer when you are done and say, “Look at how nice this room looks now!” Another way to keep your home tidy is to "shut off" certain rooms or cupboards for a time. If you're too tired to keep a certain room tidy, work on that room, 15 minutes at a time, until it is the way you want it to look and then "close" it. Shut the door, ban its use, whatever works, and just try to close it down for a period. We do this with our sewing room on occasion. It is a place that can quickly turn into a crafting explosion. :-) That's a good thing, I love to see my children being creative, but when I don't have the time or energy to oversee its use or clean up then I "close the door". Now, are you drinking enough water? (Just wanted to drive that point home again.) Attitude: Don't get resentful about your situation. This is the situation God has given you and it is for His glory even though we might not see it. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Are you going to Him for strength and wisdom in how to cope through it? Pray without ceasing and read your Bible every day. I can’t say that enough, every single day read the Bible. Read it out loud to your children. Read one Psalm and one Proverbs to them daily. Memorize verses from both together. It's not hard; just sit down with the Bible on one of your 15 minute breaks and say, "Now we are going to memorize Psalm 100." Don't stress about it, make it a fun activity. You will be amazed at how quickly they can memorize. Little children are amazing at memorization. Don't stop at reading Psalms and Proverbs, read from all over the Bible. Ask your children what their favorite Bible stories are and read them from the Bible. Then do the same at another 15 minute break. Food: When you're exhausted is not the time to try new and elaborate dishes, no matter how good and fun it looked to do on that FoodTV show. You will get started, maybe even complete it but have no energy left to clean up the mess. Focus on whole foods and eating simple. It's easier and better for you. Packaged and processed foods are not worth the ease, they are too hard on your health. Don’t rely on them. If it comes in a box, don’t buy it. Shop from the produce aisle, all that you have to do to them is wash and cut, and you can do that 15 minutes at a time. Laundry: Here's a tried and true trick that many moms use. We practice it and I know that many out there do also. If it's not dirty, don't wash it, wear it again. Some children are messier and will go through more than one outfit in a day. Others, especially in the winter months, can wear the same outfit three days before it looks like it is dirty. Don't make life harder for yourself by washing things that aren't even dirty. Little children don't sweat like adults and their clothes can be worn until they spill food, drink, or arts and crafts on them. When you fold, do it with your children. Sit on the floor and go slow. Listen to an audio, watch a decent show or video and just keep moving forward, one thing at time. Make it fun for them by sending them on little missions to put things away and timing the missions. Give your children lots of praise for each thing they do. Teach them these verses while you work on folding, Colossians 3:23-24 "Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ." Now, don't forget to praise the children in front of Dad when he comes home. Tell him what good helpers they were and list everything they did. They will glow. Choose to make the days good ones by doing what you can with what you have. Your attitude is one of your greatest assets and it can be fed and watered with God’s Word and keeping your health up. “This too shall pass” and you will have a hard time remembering how bad you felt during this time. __________________________ Town Day
The purpose of Town Day is to do your errands. Why establish a day for this? For some of us the answer is clear--we live so far away from town that to run there for every little thing would drive us into poverty and we would no longer be homeschooling but vehicle schooling. For those who live conveniently close to all stores, I would still suggest establishing a Town Day in your family life for the same reason we country folk do--efficiency. You will save time and money by disciplining yourself to doing your errands on one day. Keep track of the time you spend running here and there for this and that. Work on being more efficient with your time and using the time and money you save for greater purposes. The day before Balance the checkbook. Make your menu plan and shopping lists. Put your lists in your purse. Pack the diaper bag. If you have items to take back to town, put them in the vehicle. If you have stops to make after the grocery store then put an ice chest in for your cold items. Plan your route to be as efficient as possible. If you will need to eat in town, work that into your plan. If you have a lot of little children you need to be extra diligent about how you plan your day. Miserable children make for a miserable day. Do not stress them more than they can handle. If they are even slightly ill, take that into account in how you plan your day. Would you like to be hauled all over God’s creation if you felt lousy?The night before Lay out town clothes and shoes for everyone. Put everyone to bed at a decent time if not earlier than usual. The morning of Load the crockpot so you do not have to worry about supper. Leave immediately after the breakfast table chores are done so that you can be home as soon as possible for the little ones to get their naps. Everybody has to use the toilet before leaving. Being efficient Plan your stops so that you do not have to back track around town. Do the most necessary stops first so if the little children begin to meltdown you can cut your losses and head for home. Do not give the children anything beyond water to drink unless you like to go into the bathroom in every store you visit. Take along a drink cooler of water and paper cups or water bottles. I like to keep a case of water bottles in our van. In the Store Baby goes into your front carrier or the shopping cart’s seat (clean it first with a baby wipe). Toddlers go into the back of the cart and have to sit. It is nicer to sit on a coat or a package of toilet paper, paper towels, or diapers. If you need a lot of items at the store then your biggest kid will have to push another cart. Store Rules Go over the Store Rules before you leave the vehicle; review them again between each stop.
Lest you think I am a big meany, I do reward for good behavior. Disobedience is dealt with at home. I have found that the way the shopping goes is largely dependent on my preparation for the day and my attitude. I try to make it fun and we take time to smell the fresh strawberries in the produce section and window shop a bit. On especially good days, we will stop for ice cream on the way home. Eating out or not Drive through eating costs a lot of money, leaves the children hungry, and is extremely unhealthy. Try to eat at home or pack along sandwiches. It is a treat to stop at a park for a picnic. When you get home Put the little ones down for a nap first. Have the older children unload the bags and put away refrigerator items while you feed the baby. Then let everyone go to Quiet Time, they need a break from running around and so do you! Get your salad veggies washed. Cut up the dry stuff and toss, this will keep for several days if you don’t add tomatoes, mushrooms, cucumbers, and other moist items. Cut those at each meal. Put your older children in charge of salad prep. When you and the children do the afternoon chores have them distribute the shopping items to their proper places. Recovery If it was a very rough day in town, and I know you know what I mean, thank the Lord you put food in the crockpot. The bare minimum is to get the cold items put away, and then everyone goes to their Quiet Time place until supper. The chores can wait until tomorrow. Rest restores the sanity like nothing else does. The Next Day Balance the checkbook again. Keeping on top of this small chore keep the finances under control.
__________________________ Top Ten Time Thieves
Before exposing the thieves of time let’s first look at what the scriptures say about time and how we are to use it. We understand what God's will for our time when we study the scriptures. It’s certainly not found in this common thought, “I just listened to my heart.” This phrase is often used to explain a questionable decision. What guides every little decision you make from the moment you rise up until the moment you fall asleep? Jeremiah 17:9 says: It is natural but wrong to trust our hearts to lead us in our use of time. It takes deliberate thought and effort to seek God’s priorities. The verses preceding Ephesians 5:15-16 teach us many things about living the Christian life. A short list includes:
Another short list from the verses following v.15-16
Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 further guides us as women. The Proverbs 31 lady embodies everything listed above in a practical way. She is strong and dignified, trustworthy and excellent; she’s not idle and laughs at the days to come. In Titus 2 we as women are specifically instructed:
When we don’t keep our priorities in line with scripture we rob God of His best use of time in our lives. Are we running from God’s will? The reason we run from God’s will is the heart (Jeremiah 17:9). We need to put off the old woman and put on the new and renew our minds (Ephesians 4:22). We need God to perfect our hearts everyday through prayerful repentance. In no particular order here is a list of ten thieves of your and God’s time. Television and Books Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. That verse also led me to avoid certain genres of books. Both television and books can be means of escapism. We don’t need to be caught up in someone else’s imaginary world. God gave us a life to live! What we are to be is controlled by the Holy Spirit. We can relax and have down time without offending Him. Computer Online communities can be a venue of encouragement and relation to others, but spend more time getting to know your neighbours. Be salt and light! Computer rabbit trails also steal time from our first priorities. Be careful, be wise, make a plan for the time you spend online and use a timer. Poor Planning Health and Sleep Overcommitted Telephone, Email, IM, gadding about It’s an old, old problem. Don’t be an idler, gossip, or busybody going about from house to house via the telephone, email, IM, or visiting. Save your talk time and be meaningful with it. There is no need to say the same thing five different ways in your conversation. In doing these things you are stealing your own time, God’s time, and the correspondent’s time. Give thought to your words. Disobedient Children
__________________________ Resolute an Attitude
Have you made your list of New Year’s resolutions? Or did you give up on that tradition years ago? When you make your resolution list, do you promptly lose it? Does your preschooler find it and use it for handwriting practice? A classic New Year’s resolution is to be more organized. Everyone recognizes that being organized and efficient improves productivity and makes life more pleasant. It is one thing to make the resolution and another to accomplish it. Some say that people are either born organized or not. I agree to a point; I have seen in my own children how their brains work differently and make them better at certain tasks. I do believe though that everyone can become better organized and disciplined in their personal habits. I certainly have room for improvement. I have had years when I was very organized and efficient and other years where I felt as if I were drowning in mess and so tired that the thought of where to start was overwhelming. I can easily blame it on workload, babies, hormones, too many outside-the-home activities, and more. Whether you are on top of things right now or not, there’s always room for improvement. Why do you want to be more organized? What are your goals? Who are you aiming to please? Write these down on the paper that you have been writing your New Year’s resolutions on. We want to know why we’re doing what we’re doing to help motivate us to follow through. Use Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 as a reference point in making your goals. Work on making life more in line with God’s Word. Once you’ve motivated yourself with getting to the underlying reasons, let’s move forward to how we’re going to be more organized. It’s not enough to just make a goal or Resolution; we need to make a plan to reach it. We’ll work on the basics of planning the work of being organized. Sometimes planning the work can be so much fun but takes so much time that we don’t get any real work done! Keep the planning simple. Maybe you are one that hates to plan and just wants to get it done so you dive in and make a bigger mess in the process and “oops!” you forgot that people need to eat? Planning your work helps avoid those kind of “oops” moments. While you have your pencil and resolution paper out, let’s make some simple plans. Divide your home management into different areas. Mine is divided into Cleaning, Kitchen, Home Office, Laundry, Town (shopping and errands), and Gardening. Your life might look slightly different. Give each area of home management a day that you will focus on. For instance, Monday is Laundry Day and Tuesday is Kitchen Day at my house. On the assigned day, do all the chores associated with that work on that day. This improves efficiency in dramatic way. It is not new; I did not invent this idea. It is how our grandmothers and great-grandmothers worked. We’re recovering the lost art of home-management and we’ll teach it to our daughters. Where are your daughters by the way? Set them beside you and make these home organization plans together. Do you think they are too little? They are not. Maybe they will only do art work beside you or practice writing their name but tell them what you are doing. Watching is learning. If you have an older daughter, let her plan the management of an area. Work on this together. Once you have assigned each day of the week to an area of home management, make a big list of every single task in that area. This is your new organized life. You will need discipline to stick to it. That’s a huge part of establishing new habits, reaching goals, and changing your life. What are your habits now? When are you doing the lists of tasks that you made? If you aren’t doing those tasks, what are you doing instead? Identify time wasters by watching yourself and writing down every single little thing that you do. You need to replace each bad time wasting habit with one of the things on the task list for the day. Match a time wasting habit with work task and every time you start to do that old habit, do the work instead. This is called the Put-Off, Put-On Principle which is found in Ephesians 4. "To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness." ~ Ephesians 4:22-24 A big boost to self-discipline is in changing our attitudes! How is your attitude towards your home? This is a choice we make every day. Do you love your home? Do you love the people that live there? Do you love God who gave you your life, your home, and your family? Galatians 5:13 "For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another." It doesn’t say “through bitterness serve one another” or “through manipulation serve one another” it is through love that we serve one another. It is through God’s love in us that we can do this with joy. The things that are before us to do are His calling for us today. We are serving Him when we serve others. The Holy Spirit will help us our calling. God wants us to be full of His joy that comes from knowing Him (John 15). When we live in His will, when we put off our old self, when we serve Him with gladness, then we understand that the joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10). "Serve the Lord with gladness!" ~ Psalm 100:2 The best way to keep your attitude right is to spend time in God’s Word every day. We learn to know Him and love Him and how to better serve Him through His Word. As you go about your day, pray without ceasing. He knows how many hairs are on your head, He sees the sparrow fall, and so of course He cares for every nuance of your day. Pray for strength, pray for wisdom, pray for understanding, and pray that the fruit of the Spirit will flow out of your life. Your Christian ministry is your home! It is at the center of everything you do! Make time reading God’s Word a priority in your morning. It is your bread and water, it is your strength. Feed your spirit and in turn your attitude will be right with God. When your attitude is right, it becomes easier to put off bad habits and put on Godly habits. Our New Year’s Resolutions for being more organized are easier to achieve because we have Godly attitudes towards the ministry of our homes to others. May the Lord, Maker of Heaven and Earth, bless you with strength and help you with your efforts to bring glory to Him in organizing your home management!
__________________________ The Key to Clean: Consistency
Deuteronomy 5:13 Work is not discouraging unless we let it be discouraging. Work is simply the process needed to get to an end point. In this case I am talking about a clean house, the goal of every keeper of the home in the world. When a large homeschooling family lives in a home 24 hours a day, seven days a week, things get dirty, messes are made, clutter is left lying around, and small children create chaos. Yes, it will be a mess--it’s a fact. Don’t let it discourage you, just get to work. Make the work a habit that happens without thought and it becomes easy work that can be done quickly. Then there will be more time to do things that... create more work. Now smile! Work is simply the process needed to get to an end point. You want a clean house, you want to do fun things that give you pleasure–living is work. Work is living, work is fun if you make it fun, and work is a joy because it is serving the Lord. Rest is what God has given to us for our physical bodies on the seventh day. Rest is not something that you do during the daylight hours unless you are ill, work nights, or are post partum. Clean is not the only goal of the home keeper. The home keeper also wants her family to live with love, comfort, and happiness. These are intangibles that have more to do with atmosphere and attitude. It is hard to create the atmosphere and attitude of love, comfort, and happiness in our homes if our homes are pig pens and we moms are drowning in self-pity. Have you ever watched pigs or seen their pen? Pigs root around with their noses turning over anything and everything in order to find something to eat. This process is very destructive to the place they are kept. They eat anything and everything. Pigs will wallow, they move their bodies around in the dirt in order to create a bed and when it rains into their wallow, it becomes a mud bath where they take residence until cold weather when they pile on top of each other and suffocate the pigs at the bottom of the pig pile. So understand this--pigs wallow in the mud, sleep in the mud, root around destroying things for food, eat anything and everything, and then pile on each other with no regard for their fellow pigs and kill the pigs who can’t get out from underneath. Think of the word images that come from the lifestyle of pigs, “pig pen” “wallow like a pig” “pig pile”. Imagine a family doing the same thing: rummaging through cupboards looking for food and then wallowing about in their mess, never cleaning and then sleeping in their mess. It happens, I’ve seen it up close and personal! It is our nature to be lazy. We must renounce ungodly habits and worldly passions. "How long will you lie there, you sluggard? "For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works." Keeping your home tidy and clean is as simple as keeping a daily chore time. It is important to my husband that the house be tidy in order for him to have a relaxing evening so we hold "Afternoon Choretime" every day. This is the time of day that we restore order. We put away the schoolbooks and projects that we were working on. If it’s a large project that we will come back to the next day, we tuck it away in a safe place and straighten up as much as possible around the project. We make the mood one that Dad can come into and relax in and enjoy his family. We have food cooking that tantalizes the senses for an enjoyable family suppertime. We listen to calming music that sets the mood for the evening. All these things are done in the hour or two before Dad arrives home. We are setting a place for the king of the castle. Let me show you how to go from the creative chaotic homeschool home to a relaxing haven of rest for your family. First you will need to announce to the house that it is "Afternoon Choretime" and tell the children to quickly put away whatever they are working on. While you are instructing them, light a candle (high out of reach of the littlest climbers of course) and put on music. This helps signal to the children that evening is coming and it is time to prepare for it. Then go to your bedroom and bath and spend 5 minutes freshening up. You want a picture of loveliness to your beloved when he comes in the door. Now, put on a fresh apron and start the supper work while the children do the room straightening and cleaning. Assign each person a room to straighten and clean. If you have no big children yet, you will need to do it. Bring your children along with you to do these chores. This is training for them. They might be a hindrance now, but in this training they are learning the work and will be soon training their younger brothers and sisters how to do it. Make a list of daily chores for each room and laminate it or put it in a sleeve protector to be kept in that room. As you go to each room, refer to the chart; show it to the children so that they will know that there is a list of work for the room. Take a photo of the room when it is picture perfect so that the children know what the room should look like when they are done and attach the photo to the Daily Chore sheet. At a certain time say “Afternoon Choretime! Let’s pick up and clean before Daddy gets home!” Children love to please their dad. If you keep them focused with encouraging words and do the work quickly they will grow to love the satisfaction of looking at a pleasing room and showing it off to Dad when he walks in the door. Don’t be a drill sergeant, be an encourager. Say things like you would want to hear it from your mom. Sing while you work, make up a silly song to go along with the work. Work quickly and efficiently. Pull a basket or wagon around to collect toys with and send the children on little missions to put the toys away. Give a trash bag to a child and send him around to be the trash collector. Hand out feather dusters and/or dust cloths and teach them to dust. By quickly dusting every day, the rooms do not get dirty. When things are picked up on a regular basis, there is not so much to put away. Take a step back for a minute here and do this during the day. Tteach them to put things away when they get them out! When they are done playing with something train them to put it away before getting out a new toy or activity. This works if you are with them and remembering to teach them every minute. It is when you become busy with another thing in another room that they will drop what they are doing and move on. Work on making “Don’t lay it down, put it away” one of your mantras. “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” If you have big children that can work well at room cleaning then have them work alone or with a little buddy. Assign them to teach a little child how to clean their assigned room. Teach the big buddy to be an encouraging teacher. If there is a need for speed, then set the little ones at the table with an activity that will keep them busy during the clean up time. There are some children and some ages of little ones that are simply more distracting to the assigned room cleaner than necessary. For instance, toddlers seem to delight in following a room cleaner around and undoing what was just done and cause the room cleaner to be working in a never-ending cycle. ARGH! Put these children at an activity at the table or in a high chair. Assign a day of the week for each toddler activity to be done while the rest of the crew cleans. i.e. Monday-playdough; Tuesday-washing dishes (water play); Wednesday-chunky puzzles; Thursday-coloring; Friday-finger paint. Not all of these will work for all children and situations, come up with your own list of activities for that particular child who is not able to clean or be a good little helper-buddy yet. Have the children choose their favorite room to be the one they are responsible for cleaning. This adds ownership to it for them because they care more about what their favorite room looks like. If there is disagreement about who gets what room then have the children draw straws. Keep the same rooms for a long stretch of time (3-4 months) so that the children will get really good at that room’s particular chores. This teaches them to do their work with excellence. By changing room assignments frequently, nobody gets really good and fast at doing a particular room. It is easier to let tasks slide by for the next room-keeper to do next week. It also makes it easier for the home manager by having a short period of room chore training rather than re-training new room-keepers every week. When the daily Room Chores are done for the main rooms of the house, then the children are to do their daily Bedroom Chores. By focusing on one area of the bedroom, the work there gets done on a regular basis and the bedroom is never very dirty. When the bedroom chore is done, do the Deep Cleaning chore for the day. Sometimes it is a big chore, sometimes it’s miniscule. It all depends on the Focus Area of the house, the chore for the day, and how many helpers there are. If a chore doesn’t get done one day, it’s OK, you can get that chore done next time it comes around in the housecleaning schedule. Try hard to keep the deep cleaning chores small and daily and you won’t have embarrassing deep dirt and cobwebs hanging around. Now, if the house is clean and Dad is not home yet, have the children do "Sit Time." Assign them a chair and give them a stack of books to “look” at. If they can read, then give them some reading time. The big kids could play a game that is easy to set up and tear down before supper like checkers or pick up sticks. If you eat dinner late and the children are starving, do a small snack time and clean up before "Sit Time." At our house, after the Afternoon Choretime, the big kids go outside to do their Animal Chores. Sometimes they are done by the time Dad comes home and sometimes they do outside chores with Dad. Each home is going to be a little different; the goal though is to have as much of the work done as possible before Dad comes home from work so that everyone can have a relaxing and pleasant evening enjoying each other. What time you start doing chores is also going to vary with your home, the ages of your children, how big of messes they make with their projects, what time your husband comes home from work, and more variables. If Afternoon Choretime is a new thing for your house, you will need to have a period of fine tuning to iron out these sorts of details. It takes time to learn new chores and new routines. Stick with it for a month and then work on making it more efficient. When we do daily chores in every room of the house, the house always looks clean and is never more than 10 minutes from looking picture perfect. If we skip Afternoon Choretime for a couple of days or a week then our house looks like a pig pen. Holding a regular chore time maintains your house beautifully. Having a system for doing the regular maintenance chores helps the house seemingly run by its self. It becomes consistently clean. Tip: In the past we use the unfinished part of the basement for these types of things before we turned it into a Laundry Room. Think creatively for making room for the creative projects. In our case, it was more efficient to move the girls into one room for sleeping. Sleeping is all their bedroom is used for anyway. Their toys are in the playroom and their craft projects are in the Sewing Room. Their clothes are in the bedroom closet. The Sewing Room is our place for all crafting endeavors. This is a bit of a jump from our culture’s idea of the use of rooms. Take a look at a house plan book, in the home decorating magazines and catalogs, watch a home decorating show, visit a 2.3 children family’s home and you will see bedrooms specially decorated for a boy or girl. Great expense and detail is given only to be outgrown in three years. With all the “proper” furniture and décor there is only room for one or at the most two children. What is the bedroom used for? Being an individual with a personal TV, stereo, and computer? Hanging out with friends? This doesn’t fit the philosophy of the Christian family of each one living for the other and all living for Christ. How many houses are large enough for each person in the large family to have their own bedroom and live that individualistic life? As Christians do we want to promote that kind of narcissism in our children? It is far better to promote the skills of loving and taking care of one another, of working creatively with our hands and hearts to benefit others. By narrowing the use of bedrooms for sleeping or reading quietly on a bed, this is accomplished. Use any extra room created in the home for a workspace. This keeps craft mess from spreading around through the house. If your house is small, work hard at thinking creatively, try different avenues and uses. What about “alone time”? What is the alone time used for? Think about the child that is seeking alone time. Is it a need for quiet reading or study? Is it a self-centered escape? If the child needs alone time to calm their spirit in a healthy way then help that child carve out a niche somewhere to have that quiet time. It doesn’t need to be a bedroom. It can be workshop, a reading chair, or a bubble bath. Let go of the culture’s idea of how things should be. Make a list of priorities. Do what you can with what you’ve got.
__________________________ Laundry Management
There is one sure thing that will keep the Laundry Monster from growing any larger than yipping dog. Assign a day of the week to laundry. In our house it is Monday. Add a daily plan of Laundry Day to your Home Management Book. Doing this helps to focus effort and put a hefty dent in the never-ending job of laundry. You know how big the mountain can be for the large family--colossal. When I had only a few small children I was overwhelmed with laundry, but let me say that those days were nothing compared to the amount that piles up these days with eight children and one husband who's clothes get grimy working out in the farm. Out of those eight, three are adult sized people who seem to delight in seeing how filthy they can get their clothes. Add to that a passel of girls who like to change clothes as the mood strikes throughout the day. Don’t forget the baby with regular diaper blow-outs, and the other little one who seems to wear food rather than eat it. The laundry can pile up pretty high. I have seen the heap under our clothes chute grow to nearly my height, and I say aloud, “How can this be? We just did laundry?” Make a commitment to your laundry. Act as if you are joined with the washer and dryer. They are your new best friends. You will not leave them nor forsake them all the day long. This is an important point that I believe is the key to managing your family’s laundry. It changed my life. Early in the morning meet with the washer and dryer and feed them their first load. Set the timer and clip it to yourself, tie it with a ribbon or a shoelace around your neck, stick it in your pocket, or duck tape it to your wrist. You will have to time your loads, some will dry faster than others and you will learn how to adjust your timer accordingly. The point here is that as soon as your timer goes off, you run (yes, you are also exercising) to the washer/dryer to take care of the laundry. You'll switch loads and fold clothes each time the timer beeps. When you get done folding a load, look around and ask, “What can I do to make this area cleaner?” Grab a wet rag and wash the laundry equipment, sweep the floor, catch the cobwebs. Is there clutter collecting on top of the washer and dryer? Put it away in its proper place. What can you do to keep clutter from collecting there? How about a little basket for all the things that people leave in their pockets? If you do one little clean-up chore after each load, the room will stay clean. Another thing you can work on between loads is mending and ironing. If it suits your house set up, take these two tasks to the same room the children are working in. How do you hold a Laundry Day and homeschool your big brood? When you leave the room where they are working, instruct them to keep working and try to figure things out for themselves. When you return, praise them for their diligent work, help them with their questions, and if they were naughty then hand out consequences. Use this day to wean your children off of the need for constant hands-on instruction. They need to be able to learn how to work on their own. They will not have you teaching them their whole lives, learning how to teach themselves is a skill they need to learn. Laundry Day helps facilitate this. There have been times when I've had a child tomato-staked to me because he couldn’t behave unless I was by his side 24/7. When a child is tomato-staked to me, I give them work to do too--along with gets lots of love and instruction. This is what a tomato-staked child needs the most. Another way of handling Laundry Day is to have the children take turns switching loads, folding, and doing a clean-up chore. Start with the oldest and run down the line of children. When it comes time for the little children’s turn, go with them and teach them how to run the equipment. Use a permanent marker to help them identify the most commonly used setting on the equipment. For the older children who are able to do laundry alone, make a big poster explaining how much soap, water temperatures for certain loads, clean-up chores to do, and whatever else your particular laundry situation calls for. How old are these laundry helpers? I know of two families who give the laundry work to the resident ten-year-old. When the next child in line turns ten, that child gets the laundry work. From these two examples I think it is safe to say that a ten-year-old can do laundry unassisted. My current eight-year-old can switch loads and run the equipment without assistance. I can send her to switch loads and know that it will be done right. We work on it altogether all the time but the 11 and 8-year-olds are chiefly responsible for it these days in our house. If a member wants certain articles of laundry done then that member does a full load of laundry for himself. A load less than full is sacrilege here! A family makes a lot of laundry and many hands make light work. When each member contributes to the good of the family he or she builds self-worth and confidence in the ability to do a life-long chore. This is education. In addition to holding a regular Laundry Da,y is the daily chore of putting things where they belong. When your children arise and call you blessed because they have clean clothes you will say, “Please bring all of the dirty laundry from your bedroom and bathroom to the laundry area and sort it.” You need to say this every day of their life with you until they say, “I know, Mom.” At that point they have finally gotten it. Every morning dirty laundry goes to the laundry room. If they do not obey you when you tell them this little sentence it is direct disobedience and should be disciplined in whatever manner your family disciplines direct disobedience. It is a habit that they and you need to learn and carry along all through life. It means discipline on your part in checking up on them regularly. Make it a habit of yours to take a little house tour with the children every morning. You have to keep doing this or things will slide into mess and then you’ll have the Laundry Monster taking up resident again. You might say, “I shouldn’t have to...” Do not forget that these are children--strangers in a foreign land. They are just learning about life and living in it. You, as mother, are their teacher in how to live the daily life. The Bible says that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child. Sometimes it is called childishness. We are teaching them to be consistent in everything. We are teaching them self-discipline. If we didn’t ever learn it well as children then it will be doubly hard to teach them, but teach them we must. You will need to check up on their chores. Praise them when they do well! Find an effective age-appropriate discipline for offenders. The children should have a 5 minute bedroom pick-up as part of their morning routine to keep the laundry off of the floor. If all you have is Littles, you will need to do this with them, as you talk to them about what you are doing and why you are doing it. Hand them the laundry to put in the basket or throw down the laundry chute. Make laundry a fun game--identify colors, count items and so on. Help them to lay the clean clothes on the shelves or hang them up. This teaches them order and organization. Of course it would be faster to do it yourself, but your end goal is self-sufficient, self-disciplined adults, and it starts with these baby steps. This takes self-discipline on our parts as moms. It can be hard but the pay off is great. When these things are not taken care of, the result is a huge laundry monster that seems to have the ability to eat the house alive. You will also not be blessing your children with the ability to care for themselves, they will grow up to be slovenly adults. On Laundry Day your goal is to do as many loads of laundry as possible until 4 o’clock. At 4 o’clock your family should be doing their Late Afternoon Chore Routine and part of that routine on Laundry Day is collecting full baskets of folded clothing, putting clothes away AND bringing the basket back to the laundry area. If you have older children they should be doing these things either instead of you or with you. If you have all little children then make an effort to find little baskets or plastic dishpans that they can carry their clothes with. If you are a morning person and love to see clothes waving on the line, then make it a goal to have your loads of wash flying in the breeze by noon. We fold our clothes directly off the line into the baskets. Each bedroom gets a basket. Doing this outside It is easier and more enjoyable to do laundry when the whole set up from clothing storage to cleaning and folding is efficient. Efficiency saves you time, and we all like more time. Making your laundry and clothing system is going to be subjective to the house you live in. What works for one will not work for another. Ask for ideas when you’re with other ladies. Browse through the laundry, shelving, and storage aisles of home stores. I will tell you what we do at our house at this point in time. Our laundry room is the unfinished portion of our basement and is beside a walk-out door. This makes it easy to hang out clothes. Our boys’ bedrooms are in the basement so we store their clothes in the laundry room and they use it to change in or they carry their clean clothes to the bathroom when they shower. Across one side of the room we hung a one-inch pipe that we hang the boys’ shirts on and drip-dry clothes during cold or wet weather. The master bedroom, nursery, and girls’ bedrooms are on the second story. We put a laundry chute from the second story, through the first floor mudroom that empties beside the laundry equipment in the basement. The laundry chute is an 8 inch PVC pipe. The laundry chute has helped keep dirty laundry from lying around the main floor and the second story (yes, I have people who take off socks and leave them lying about too, grrrr). In our Laundry Room we have big shelves that hold large clear plastic containers of out of season clothing and sizes that nobody is wearing. I only save the best clothes from one season or child to the next. I have discovered that my perception at the end of a season is not that great. I tend to view something as nice just because it was at the beginning of the season when in reality it doesn’t look that nice anymore at the end of the season. I have to be very strict with myself when putting clothes into storage--I have a lot of space but also a lot of children. There’s not enough room to keep everything and keep track of it, and so I have learned to keep only the nicest things. It is helpful to have the members of your family learn to take their clothes off right-side out, socks un-balled, and layers removed from each other. Sometimes gentle reminders are all it takes, but there are other times when the consistently guilty culprit needs to be brought to the scene of the crime and instructed to undo their dirty laundry themselves. Explain to the family that laundry in such a state does not come clean and show them an example. I have found that showing the “why” of certain things we do, helps reinforce the “what” and “how”. Start enforcing this when they are little so that it will carry on when they are older. Having a laundry day will be a big help in keeping the laundry under control but of course laundry occurs all the time. As soon as ten people change their clothes at the end of the day there are three new loads. Add in baby laundry, towels, and bed sheets, and the laundry will just about bring you to tears. Don’t let the Laundry Monster win. Keep the upper hand by having a daily goal in addition to keeping Laundry Day. Our goal is four loads by 4:00. In the summer when we hang out laundry, the goal is four loads by noon. Some weeks work out better, and as a result of our daily goal we end up with a light day for Laundry Day! Some weeks we are especially busy and our daily goals aren’t reached which makes Laundry Day a battle to be won with the Laundry Monster. This might be a very strange and foreign thought but learn to love doing laundry. Replace all the bad feelings and ugly thoughts with scripture and God pleasing thoughts. This works is as unto the Lord just like every work is. Less than a hundred years ago women were still standing over a fire, stirring their boiling clothes. There is a local woman whose mother died when she was young from burns sustained when her dress caught fire over the wash. There are women around the world that do their wash in the river. We have it easy; we throw the wash in a machine and walk away. Live gratefully for the blessings God has given you. Thank Him for each person whose laundry passes through your hands. Thank Him for the sun and breeze. Thank Him for the clouds that bring rain. Thank Him for soap and clear water. Thank Him for the day He made and blessed you with. Thank Him for strength for the tasks ahead. "The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song." ~ Psalm 28:7 Laundry Tips:
Make a Laundry Protocol poster for your Laundry Room Making a Laundry Protocol poster will aid your family in knowing how to use the equipment if they need a reminder and will help them know how to wash certain loads. Underneath the Instructions line, write daily instructions. Include sorting and the daily goal. Then make a column down the left for each day of the week. The second column will be which loads and the order of loads to do on each day including a couple of days off. Don’t try to do laundry on your Town Day or The Lord’s Day. Write how to wash each particular load-the particular cleaners and settings that you want used on a particular load. Some things that are obvious to us as moms due to our experience are not so obvious to the uninitiated. Help your young helpers with specific instructions in how to do the job well. Hang the poster near your equipment then take your helpers to it and read through it with them. Ask them if they have any questions. If, while doing laundry they ask you how to do something, refer them to the poster. Maybe something is not clear and needs modification. The poster is your teacher’s aid in helping to get everything done that needs doing, and getting it done well. The family won’t need to track you down for details. Conclusion Each home is different, each laundry set up is different, and each household’s laundry is different due to the activities that the members participate in. One families laundry may be soiled with toddler food, the next grass stains, the next red clay, and the next chicken manure. One house might have their laundry room in the garage, the next on a back porch, the next in the kitchen, and so on. Take the ideas here and use them to get your creative juices flowing and to make a system that works for your family in your particular home. The bottom line to doing the laundry, is to keep on top of it. Work at it daily--early morning, late morning, noon, and early afternoon. Between each activity that you schedule in your day switch loads and fold. Do not let the Laundry Monster reside in your home.
__________________________ The Children's Hour
How do you set the tone of the home? It starts with your attitude. How do you react to things? Put good things in and good things will come out. "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires." Galatians 5:22-24 Work on this in the late afternoon by putting on refreshing music. Put a memory verse card above your sink and review it while you put supper together. Pray over the supper and ask God’s blessings on the evening as a family. If someone has trouble eating something on the menu, pray about it. If there are relationship problems in your home, pray about those during this time. Pray without ceasing. Help your children be prepared for the evening by getting their chores done by a certain time. Respond to their needs with the law of kindness on your tongue. Easy for me to say, but not so easy to do some days. It takes self-discipline and relying on the Holy Spirit that lives within. If the children are bickering then stop everything, call a meeting, explain to them what the family’s goals are for the evening-happy hearts, a restful retreat, comfort food, and a good time had by all. You might need to paint a picture of what this looks like in your home for the children. Then, go to work making it happen. What does your husband like to do when he arrives home? Does he like to rest in his chair to unwind or does he want to be in the yard playing ball? Every dad is different from the next. Help the 'Dad' in your home find the haven of respite from his daily work. Once Dad is allowed to unwind and relax in whatever way that is, he will be much more receptive to anything else planned for the evening. Is supper early or late in your home? There is no right or wrong. It is important to have structure and regular meals for your family. Those two things go a long way toward content and peaceable children. If your husband likes to have supper late then you need to have a substantial snack in the late afternoon for the children. Plan for this. Add it to your schedule and grocery list. How does your supper hour go? Meal times are unique in that the family is gathered in one place all doing the same thing together. Make the most of the time by creating an event of it. Don’t allow it to be just throwing food down the hatch. Enjoy the time, enjoy the food, enjoy the fellowship. Eat slow. Talk to each other. Discuss the day’s events both personally and in the world. Don’t let children wander off when they are done eating. For starters, it’s rude. They should ask the head of the table if they may be excused or not. Secondly, they are going to miss out on listening to conversation by leaving early. This is an educational time for them. What age to let go and what age to keep at the table will often depend on the personality and age of the individual child (and if they had their nap for the day). I would suggest that you keep them at the table a bit longer than they would desire to stretch their attention span. When it's time to clean up, do the chores quickly and efficiently. The faster chores are done, the more time is left for 'The Children’s Hour'. How The Children’s Hour is spent will depend on the family. Some spend it in front of the one-eyed bandit. Don’t let the blinking blue light rob your family any more. Better choices are reading aloud, playing games, talking, playing musical instruments together, singing, sitting outside on the deck and watching the sun set. Each family will do something different. We do things differently throughout the year with the changing seasons, the weather, the amount of outside chores that need to be done after Dad comes home from work, and so on. Sometimes we have 'The Children’s Hour' before supper, sometimes after. Here’s a short list of things that the children and I remember enjoying in the last six months: board games, played softball, sat in the backyard and talked, enjoyed badminton, played piano, reviewed catechism questions, got creative in the sandbox, read the Bible, showed off bike tricks for the family, wrestled on the floor, and engaged in flip-flop wars. Depending on the season and what 'The Children’s Hour' brought we might gather in the living room for bedtime prayers or we pray with the girls and boys separately in their respective bedrooms. What 'The Children’s Hour' is not: separate activities for every member of the family, outside the home meetings and activities (especially on an every night basis), parents in one room doing something while children do their own thing or sit in front of the TV, everybody with a nose in their own book, everybody gathered around the other blue blinking light (the computer). Family time is interacting with each other. Now, every night will not go perfectly and be a beautiful picture of 'The Children’s Hour.' The idea is to have a goal to aim for; as the saying goes, “If you aim for nothing, you’ll hit it every time.” The Christian family is one that loves each other, takes care of each other, and is a light to the world. It is hard to build relationships with one another if we aren’t doing anything together. 'The Children’s Hour' contributes to building healthy, God-glorifying relationships as a family. The Children's Hour Between the dark and the daylight,
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Are fruit flies swarming your kitchen? The kitchen is one of the most used rooms in the home and due to the nature of food preparation can be the dirtiest. There are several habits that should be part of your life to avoid having the health department condemn your kitchen, and to make it a happier place. Ten Rules for the Kitchen
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Bonnie Hooley
Have you ever wondered where time goes? Have you asked yourself, "What did I do all day?" Do you often feel like you're just "sitting and spinning?" Or that you're trying to make progress but you're not getting anywhere fast? Do you dawdle around all day and never accomplish much to bless your family, your church, and your neighbors?
like sweep the porch or water plants on other days but by focusing on the outdoor areas of the home we keep things nicely. 
When I look back on my pregnancies, the worst of them were when my diet before and during pregnancy were poor. Not enough fresh food, way too much sugar, too much "bad" comfort food, no exercise, not drinking enough water, etc. That leads to a myriad of ill feelings including the lack of ability to cope emotionally. 
The key thing to keeping your home consistently clean is a consistent chore time. It does not mean that you and your family clean and then sit around twiddling your thumbs in order to keep it clean. You can still be creative and messy, the children can still play with playdough and legos; you simply need a system for everyone to help get things cleaned up and back into place. The key thing to keeping your home consistently clean is a consistent chore time. Every work day of the week do the work.
Do you have a Laundry Monster living in your home? Do dirty clothes grow mold and mildew in your hampers? Do your children have clean and dirty clothes mixed around on the floor of their rooms? Are there huge heaps piled around your washer and dryer? Listen close to this mama who has been in that spot in the past and still has the battle with the beast when the rest of life crowds out the regular duties of home. 
gives you exercise in bending and stretching, gets fresh air into your lungs, and a bit of sunshine for Vitamin D. It is also a beautiful thing to hear the birds sing and to watch the children playing nearby. If you have a baby, take her out with you on a blanket while you hang out and take down the laundry.
